The Secret to Not Crying...

So I went to a workshop by Skillpath Seminars last Wednesday it was called “Conference for Women”.  During this I heard something that I will probably use for the rest of my life.  They gave the secret so many women need in life…how to avoid crying.  How to stop yourself from those tears falling down your face. 

Here’s the deal.  I’m currently sitting in the living room watching Dancing with The Stars.  Hines Ward is on and I just love and adore him.  But watching him tonight (for those of you who are watching) has just made me tear up.  Yes, ladies & gentlemen.  I tear up watching an NFL player on a Dancing competition.  Seriously…

So the ways you can stop yourself from crying are:

Drink something.  Your body cannot physically swallow and produce tears at the same time. –Why this won’t’ work for wedding day: I can’t stand there with a bottle of water at the altar.

Look Up.  You can’t cry when your eyes are looking up

Why this may not work for the wedding day: I might look like I’m rolling my eyes the entire time

The Winner:

Pressure point in the skin that connects your thumb and your pointer finger.  Putting pressure on this pressure point, for whatever reason helps you to stop feeling like you’re going to cry.  Seriously, do it.  It has worked for me in small situations, like watching a movie or something.  The big test for me will be Lauren & Sean’s wedding.  Lauren, try this.  It can be super discrete when you’re up there.  Your future hubby can hold that part of your hand!

Let me know what you think guys and gals! J

I heart carbs.

A few small updates.

Limos are absurdly expensive.  All we really need transportation for is for the bridal party to go from the hotel to the ceremony/reception site, out for pictures and back to the ceremony/reception site.  But when they charge hourly with minimum hours and travel time from the garage, most quotes were around $1,000 which is out of the question.  We have 17 people total that need moved (this includes the photographers).  How do we move this many people cheaply without being redneck?  Any suggestions here, people?

My diet and workout update.  My dear friend Bonnie recently commented on the lack of carbohydrates in my diet listed in a previous post.  She made a good point, that it can be both unsafe and unhealthy to exclude them completely.  (Thanks Bon, for looking out for me! Love ya girl!)The good news is, since my last post, I’ve realized my inability to exclude anything fully from my diet.  Here’s what I’ve been doing:  I’ve been eating whole grain cereal for breakfast, then a fruit (grapes and bananas are most popular) a few hours later, and then for lunch and dinner I eat sensibly.  Rudy is enjoying the new habits.  We eat salad, a meat (I still have to force myself on this one), and a vegetable or rice or both.  I treat myself to a soda or a sweet once in awhile.  When I really want something I try to make myself wait until the next day.  I can usually overcome the temptation.  My workout is about the same, cardio mixed with weights.  Today I couldn’t make it to the gym so when I came home I did about 45 minutes worth of “Just Dance 2” compliments of Muss & E.  I swear I sweat just as much if not more than if I ran on the elliptical!!!

I’ve got more energy and gumption every day.  I get sore and tired sometimes but it’s gratifying, I know I’m doing something good for myself and my body!  I haven’t had fast food in weeks and I just feel great!

On a semi-wedding note:  I saw Bridesmaids this weekend.  If you have a sense of humor, and you aren’t easily offended, I suggest you SEE THIS MOVIE!  It was hysterical!  Kristen Wig rocks.

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Dream On...

Last night I had my first major wedding related nightmare.  It’s ironic because we haven’t really been discussing much about the wedding lately.  I looked at a few limo websites on Monday but that’s really about it.  I’ve heard that this comes with the territory of planning, because your subconscious is thinking about it, even when you don’t think you are. 

In the nightmare we were all at the hall for the reception and it was so incredibly small.  There wasn’t enough room for everyone to stand let alone sit.  It was cramped and there was no dance floor.  We couldn’t dance.  Dancing is my favorite part of receptions, so that just wasn’t working.  Then we had these trivia pads (like they have at Buffalo Wild Wings) where  you play trivia with the other guests at the bar, but it was guests at our cramped wedding playing but it would only ask sports questions, and Rudy’s controller wasn’t working and he was super upset.  Everyone kept asking me why everything was so awful.  I just kept apologizing and telling everyone how sorry I was.  I woke up to Rudy’s alarm clock.  I’m glad I woke up then because everyone was kind of attacking me.

I guess its proof that even if you aren’t stressed about it all, your subconscious is always thinking about it a little bit!  Just to make sure, I’m going to call the hall just to make sure of the maximum guest count. J

Cry Me a River

The Royal Wedding...
How can I have a blog dedicated to wedding planning without mentioning it?

Okay so I wasn’t sold on the whole thing.  I mean, yes I wanted to see her dress, but I wasn’t about to have a viewing party much less wake up two and a half hours early to witness all the hoopla.  When I woke up for work I turned the TV on hoping to just catch a glimpse of her dress (which I thought was amazing by the way).  I started getting ready and listening to it. My plan was to turn it on, see the dress, and click the power button, but I couldn’t’ turn it off.  I’m a sucker for weddings, apparently even royal ones.   As they were reciting their vows I started to well up.  I started getting teary eyed for a couple who I know nothing but what the media tells me about.  I cry at weddings, I remember being at a family friend’s wedding as a child and crying my eyes out.  I used to think it was all the pretty things that were associated with a wedding.  As I grew a little older I thought that it must be because someone I know and love has found their person, the love of their life.    But now it’s different.  Now I’m engaged.  Now Rude and I have made the decision (though it was made long before a ring) to spend our lives together, to be wed.  Now I can’t watch weddings on TV… not just on scripted shows where everything is perfect because it’s written to be, but I can’t watch weddings on reality shows like the ones on WE network.  Now that happiness is mine too, and I can’t stop tearing up. 

So this isn’t acceptable for your own wedding.  You can’t stand up at the altar and cry your eyes out.  I’ve already made the promise to myself NOT to look at any of the females in my family, primarily my Mom and Gramma.  They will cry and if I see them, it’s game over.  But I know emotional women who have gone up without a trace of a tear, said their vows and walked back down smiling.  So what stops them?  I need to find out before next June, or I will look like a blubbering idiot. J 

It’s Sunday, which is the day they show wedding programs all day long on WE.  Maybe if I watch enough and cry enough it will knock it out of me.